Chapter no 14
chapter 14 gentle skill building: laundry it’s not failure. it’s laundry My Postpartum Laundry Routine 1. Put a laundry basket in every room in the house 2. Put laundry into washer 3. Come back in eight hours when it smells like mildew because I forgot about it 4. Wash again 5. Put laundry into dryer […]
Chapter no 13
chapter 13 women and care tasks in our society, care tasks have historically been left to women. Unfortunately, as the role of the daughter, wife, and mother has widened to allow for personal ambitions, careers, and equal partnership in the working world, the pattern of placing the main responsibility for a family’s care tasks on […]
Chapter no 12
chapter 12 gentle skill building: setting functional priorities regardless of how tightly we embrace the functional view of care tasks, the reality is there are seasons of life when there are more care tasks to do than there is time in the day (or energy in the body). Work, relationships, activism, care tasks, hobbies, and, […]
Chapter no 11
chapter 11 care tasks are cyclical when I became a stay-at-home mom, I signed up to make sure my family always had clean clothes, not that they never had dirty ones. This is your gentle reminder that mounds of dirty laundry are not a failure. It doesn’t matter if you’re “never caught up on laundry.” […]
Chapter no 10
chapter 10 gentle skill building: kick-starting motivation i bought an exercise bike. “Okay, but will you really use it?” Michael said with a kind but knowing tone. After I gave him what can only be described as an award-winning presentation on the benefits of exercise (boosting serotonin and dopamine helps with mood regulation and focus) […]
Chapter no 9
chapter 9 susie with depression we know that two people can go through the same thing and be affected by it very differently. The same disorder or barrier does not present the same way in everyone. For every person with cancer making Marvel movies, there is someone at home who can’t do anything but survive […]
Chapter no 8
chapter 8 organized is not the same as tidy when we focus on function, organization becomes easier. Someone once asked me, “How did you get so organized?” To which I replied, “Once I realized I did not have to be tidy to be organized, the second half of my life began!” Organization means having a […]
Chapter no 7
chapter 7 gentle self-talk: find the compassionate observer when you have functional barriers, things pile up fast. It’s not uncommon to suddenly find yourself in an overwhelming mess. The more you stare at it, the more defeated you feel, the less motivation you have, the more you avoid it, and the more it piles up. […]
Chapter no 6
chapter 6 care tasks are functional i want you to stop caring for your home. You might think it’s important to care for your home, but your home is an inanimate object—it’s building materials and paint. It might need maintenance, but it doesn’t deserve to be cared for. You are a person. You deserve to […]
Chapter no 5
chapter 5 gentle self-talk: mess has no inherent meaning remember that because care tasks are morally neutral, mess has no inherent meaning. When you look at the pile of dishes in the sink and think, “I’m such a failure,” that message did not originate from the dishes. Dishes don’t think. Dishes don’t judge. Dishes cannot […]